Women on the other hand tend to fall in both categories of lies. Either White lies/Blatant lies, they frequent both. However, while men lead in the quantity aspect of lies, the quality of lies told by women can’t be undermined.
The societal norm of judging women harshly doesn’t help either. Thereby making it easier to tell these lies and keep secrets way more than men. The religious sentiments only fuel matters. The cultural expectations nkor? That is another icing on the cake.
This factor thus encourages women to nurture their lies & make truth a secret. Reason why an average African woman would lie about the real details of her teens. When she knows her adulthood can be judged by her ignorant teens. How about her relationship history? Ofcourse, the number of exes are better reduced. Even her doctor is exempted from knowing the truth & details of her abortion history.
So if your woman decides to come clean about the; lies she told, sins committed & buried secrets, there is need to cut her some slacks and be more understanding in such situation no matter the gravity. WHY?
A woman confessing without being caught is a noble act in the world of secrets, more importantly in a society where they are easily judged & condemned. Be kind enough to treat it as an honor that it is. For she has finally come to terms with her obligation to be the woman she ought to be with you.
Rejection will never make such feet firm.Yes! No form of lie is justifiable but note that some can be TENABLE and others FORGIVABLE. Understand that behind those lies she told is the fear of a judgemental society which you also belong & the fear of loosing something so dear – YOU.
And that ‘You’ have three tools at your disposal…….the right to stay angry, the choice to forgive & the chance to forget. Use them wisely, for a woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets only a wise man can swim through.
NB: read yesterday’s post for better understanding.